Ten ways to nurture your child’s self esteem.

Ten ways to nurture your child’s self esteem.

Self esteem- feeling good about one’s self, begins from an early age and nurturing your child’s self worth through childhood and beyond, is an enriching journey.

Here are a few suggestions to nurturing your child’s self esteem.


Suggestions                                         Why is this important?

1. Interact-play Interact in a playful way, get down on the floor and play… cars or fairies or what ever the child’s  imagination conjures up. Children need to play, it is how they learn to share, take turns, learn about actions and their repercussions, learn to organise, sort and engage. Joining in that play from time to time gives the child that feeling that an adult- Mummy…Daddy… likes me,values me and spends time with me. Of course this is not a conscious thing for the child but the subliminal self esteem ground work is being laid down here and has great benefits for the child down the track. 
2. Interact-read Read and talk to them in those quite times. Reading to your child is not only modelling a love of books-helping them to learn to track words on the page, increase knowledge, inspires the imagination and so forth, it is providing that special one on one time with an adult in a secure and quiet space. Increasing your child’s knowledge enhances self-esteem.
3. Interact-involve Be active in involving them in tasks that might be for a special occasion. Households are busy places- involve children in helping. Perhaps give them a daily chores or if you have a family function on – give little jobs such as: buy plain  white napkins and ask the children to illustrate them…find some simple job that keeps them involved and gives them a sense of belonging to the family community. Let them know their help is valued.
4. Interact-community Get involved in activities they want to be in… help out at the sporting club.. like T-ball or help make consumes for the next dance concert. Seeing parents helping  with an activity that the child loves, validates and supports who they are in the community, outside the home. There is nothing  more exciting for a child when they can say, my special adult..mother, father family member is coming to help.
5. Interact-family Have meals around the table together as a family, ban the mobiles and talk to each other. Eating together as a family teaches the child how to converse, retell events of their day, listen to others, learn table manners and gives them that sense of ritual that is a part of daily life. Creating rituals enhances self-esteem.
6. Interact-physical Develop physical skills with your child, ball throwing, skipping, jumping, climbing, hopping Physical activity not only keeps children fit but releases natural endorphins that make you feel happy, thus enhancing self esteem.
7. Interact-positive Develop a positive attitude when children bring work home form school be constructive and proactive if you are concerned and if your child has any learning problems.Detecting and dealing with them early will ensure self esteem remains entact. Children go through developmental stages in their learning, being positive towards their efforts is a big help in  maintaing self esteem. If you have any concerns regarding your child’s learning process, ask a professional. Children not keeping up with the class suffer self esteem problems. Let the child know you will help as much as you can, there is no shame in seeking advise, you will work together to find the answers.
8. Interact-behaviour Be realistic in your behavioural management, teach limits let mistakes happen and give choices.  Children that never have consequences for bad behaviour end up with a distorted view of what is acceptable and not acceptable. As a parent you pick your battles but think of behaviour as- what is safe and what is not…. inside the home and outside the home. There are things they are allow to do and things they are not. Children like to know the rules..they know where they stand and having that knowledge supports self esteem.
9. Interact-love Giving unconditional love. Accepting  and loving your child regardless of his/her short comings allows self esteem to flourish. We all have our short comings. When you need to, just let them know… “ love you…but I don’t like that behaviour.” Showing physical affection verifies self esteem.
10. Interact- unique Resist making comparisons each child has his or her strengths. None of us are perfect we all have strengths and issues we might need to work at, telling a child she/he should be like … his brother or someone else… does not allow that feeling of uniqueness to prosper within. Letting the child know that someone else can do something you can’t is a part of life but reassure your child that they have skills that someone else cannot do. That message of being able to develop your unique skills is grounding and is really helpful to the development of self esteem.


I hope these suggestions help.

Very good luck and please feel free to contact me if you have any concerns regarding your child’s self esteem.

best wishes,