Are you a people pleaser? Do you tend to say one thing to one person, but another thing to another person, just so that you can avoid conflict and seem easy to get along with? Would others consider you a pushover? Do you worry about making your own decisions without the approval of others?
If so, you may be too caught up in what other people think of you. Although all humans have the desire to be liked to avoid social isolation, the fact is that we are all unique individuals. It is never good for your happiness and confidence to be tied to the opinions of others. It is a sure way to erode your confidence, and it can only lead to unhappiness and the inability to be your true self. In fact, if you continue to be a people pleaser or pushover, you are only attracting the wrong kinds of people to you. It is time to become your true self!
So what are some things that you can do so that you quit worrying about what others think about you?
* Realise that what others think about you is none of your business
What? How could that be, you might be asking yourself. Remember this: You only have control over your own thoughts. Realise that you have no control over the thoughts and beliefs of other people. You are never going to be able to please everyone else. When you try to do so, the only person you are hurting and holding back is yourself.
* Make real friends
The easiest way to do this is by being your real, authentic self. You need to know what your values are, and what you believe in. When you know what you stand for, you will attract like-minded individuals, and real friendships will develop.
If you notice that your old friends are giving you a hard time as you try to make positive changes in your life, it might be time to move on as you make new friendships.
* When you worry what others think about you, you are being selfish and self-centered
You may never have thought about it this way before, but it is true. When you worry about what others are thinking about you, you are wasting your energy on the wrong things in life. Instead of focusing on yourself, try focusing on other people and your community. For example, volunteer somewhere that is dear to your heart. Or perhaps you can teach your children a new sport.
To sum it up, remember this insightful saying by Bernard Baruch: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
Always love hearing from you,