We all strive as parents to help our children to be confident it always helps to be confident in your self as a parent too.
When you think of confident people, whom do you picture? What makes you consider those particular people as confident? Perhaps you view confident people as natural and relaxed as they converse and engage with others.
However, most people who appear confident will tell you that it has not all come naturally. In fact, confidence is not something people are born with. It is something that develops from experiences in life.
In what follows, are the secrets to take you from an unconfident to a confident individual.
* Learn to believe in yourself
No one is exempt from the feeling of fear and uncertainty when exploring new waters. Even those who now appear confident, were scared at one time. The difference is in how they approach new situations. If you believe that you can handle anything that comes your way, your confidence will grow as you try new things. Remember this saying: “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t – you’re right.” (Henry Ford)
* Be able to accept failure
In order to get good at things, you need to take a step forwards. However, you need to realise that sometimes you might fail or fall down as you take that step forwards. However, as long as you get up again and use what you have learned from the experience, you continue moving in the right direction.
Along the way, you will also experience successes. Both successes and failures are important to learn from, and only by taking action, will you build your confidence level. Remember this. It is not about how many times you fall down; it is about how many times you get back up again. Practice makes perfect.
* Stop looking for the approval of others
If you are scared of what other people are going to think about you, it is hard to move out of your comfort zone. All confident people have had to move out of their comfort zones at various times in their lives. This allows you to try new things. Doing so, makes you feel good about yourself and improves your confidence.
* Be like a child again
Young children are amazing to learn from. They are not inhibited by fear or potential for failure. They charge on, and see every new opportunity as a learning experience. On the other hand, adults feel nervous when new things come their way. Why? Usually, because past negative experiences when they were teens or young adults are now clouding their perception.
Do you want to be on your deathbed saying, “I lived a life where I took no risks.”? Or would you rather be saying, “I have no regrets. Even when I was scared to try new things, I did them anyway!”
* Experience true happiness
Happiness and confidence go hand in hand. When you are happy with yourself and your accomplishments, confidence flows out of you. It is important that you do not seek approval from other people for your happiness. You must develop true internal happiness instead of external happiness.