American model and fashion designer, Cheryl Tiegs, made headlines in February 2016 when she fat-shamed plus-size model Ashley Graham, who appeared on the front page of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit magazine. This led to a lot of backlash, where Ms. Tiegs later apologized.
Why is it that in this day and age, we are still hung up on what bodies are “supposed” to look like? It is no wonder that so many women, teens, and even men, get caught up in having the perfect body.
Here are some tips to help you achieve confidence in your body:
* Stop saying negative things about your body.
Your brain processes the words you use, and then this reflects negatively in your life. For example, if you are telling yourself that you are fat and are convinced that a man will never find you attractive, chances are that you are right. You may very well be a plus-size woman who is physically attractive, but your negative attitude towards yourself is what is making you unattractive to others.
In addition, when you get together with your friends, stop bashing your bodies. This gets none of you anywhere, and only serves to perpetuate the problem.
* Accept your body as it is.
When you accept your body and love yourself first, you will then be open to let others love you too.Feeling sorry for yourself achieves nothing positive.
Consider how lucky you are to have a body that allows you to walk places, ride a bicycle, and dance. There are other people, such as those with devastating illnesses, who cannot do the same things that you can with your body. There is always someone worse off than you.
If you want to make changes to your body, consider cardio and muscle toning exercises. Exercise has the added bonus of releasing the “feel-good” chemicals (endorphins) in your brain that will improve your mood. Perhaps join a Zumba class or Belly-Dancing class, and enjoy the fun that comes with it.
* Don’t compare yourself to others.
The quickest way to unhappiness and lack of confidence is to compare your body to others. You need to stop doing this! Some people are blessed with good genetics, and may not need to work out as hard to stay thin.
* Acknowledge your body parts that you like.
Focus on your positive attributes, your breasts, eyes, and so forth and accentuate those parts. If you have a larger waist that bothers you, however, learn how to dress so that you can make it appear smaller or less noticeable.
* Realise that thin doesn’t necessarily mean healthy.
If you are a larger person who goes to the gym, there is a very good chance that you are healthier than your thin neighbor who is a couch potato. There are fit big people, and there are thin people with a high fat body composition.
* Talk to yourself the way you would talk to others.
Often, we are our worst critics. Instead, learn to pay yourself compliments and focus on what you like about your body and the clothing you are wearing.
* Be grateful every day for the life you have.
You might be quite surprised to realise that many people may admire you for a variety of reasons, they might not tell you, but they do. We all have our gifts and talents and it is such waste of your precious energy denigrating your self to your self… say to that little voice inside “enough I choose to like my self and am grateful for everything I have and the people who love me.” Start doing this and magic will happen.
Take good care.